October 14 and I am 17 weeks along. It had been three weeks since that first sign of bleeding and it was finally coming to an end. I was feeling some sense of normalcy and we were taking the days as they came. I settled back into our routine a little easier, hoping that my body was taking care of itself. I was relieved to wake up to a new day with no bleeding. It was easier to be optimistic.
In between dealing with the pregnancy, we were getting ready for another change. We had to move. Our lease was ending November 26th and our renewal rate at our current apartment was raised $150, an amount we just couldn't handle. Some time in all of this chaos, I found time to research new apartments and we visited nine communities. The last day, the last apartment and we found it. It was beautiful. It was larger than our current place and it was almost $100 cheaper. It was also in a different part of Austin. We lived in the Southwest and this was in the Northwest about 35 minutes away. It was too good of an offer to pass up.
Before I knew it, almost three more weeks had passed by. I was a few days shy of 21 weeks. Between living day to day and planning for our move, the time seemed to pass in a blink. Out of nowhere, it seemed, Seth got an email from a Craigslist person asking about the drums. The ad was a couple of months old! We had forgotten it was still up. The buyer didn't want the full set, but definitely wanted them and could meet us with cash. $400. Perfect! Remember, we only needed $500 for the first doctor appointment, so this was happening at the perfect time! We waited until the weekend came so they were able to meet at an easier time than after work when it was dark. Drums SOLD.
November 13, a Tuesday. I am 21 weeks and 2 days pregnant. We call and make our appointment. Finally!!!
I am too far along, they said.
WHAT?? I couldn't get prenatal care because I didn't have the funds, and now I can't get prenatal care because I am TOO PREGNANT?? This is almost comical. The woman on the phone stutters and stumbles around. We can't believe it. But we have the money, we say. She finally says that she has to ask around and see if one of the doctors will take me on, but chances are low because I am so far along. She says she will have to call us back. We hang up the phone and both of our mouths are wide open. We just stare at each other for a while.
What am I supposed to do now? Just hang out and have my first ever doctor appointment be the day I go into labor? If we would have known that you can be denied a doctor because you are too pregnant, we would have hustled more, sold more, begged even, for money. Now, we are dumbfounded by the fact that there was a chance that I would have no doctor.
Too pregnant to start prenatal care. This is just one thing I could not and cannot wrap my head around. If we weren't in panic mode before, I sure was in it now. I texted my sister, too in tears to call. She couldn't believe it either. She got online to see what she could find. In the meantime, no phone call from the OB's office. A few hours later, we couldn't wait. I told Seth to call them back and see if they had made a decision yet. While he was doing that, I was on the phone with my sister and she had found a program that said they could take me, but I needed to go through an interview to see if I qualified for their help. This was a legitimate, sit down, face to face interview. Fine.
Seth yelled out to me that the OB decided to take me! The appointment was on the following Tuesday, on the 20th. I decided to go ahead and call the other clinic just to see what they had to offer. If there was even a small chance that we could qualify for assistance, I'd take it. I applied for the MAP (Medical Assistance Program) by phone and was denied. They said I could still come in for their in house assistance but it was the one that required an interview. Great. I'll do it. The next available appointment they had was November 26.
Do we chance cancelling the OB appointment for the interview appointment? Do we chance going to the OB but then losing $500 because we end up qualifying for the other program? Ugh. Forget it.
We choose the OB. 7 days. In 7 days we will get to see our baby's heart beat. In 7 days we get to see the baby move on the sonogram screen. In 7 days we may even see the gender of our sweet little baby. 7 days!! The weight and burden of not having prenatal care has been lifted. I can breathe easy for a while. Seth can finally breathe, period! Sweet 7 days!
In 3 days, my heart sinks.
Friday, November 16 at 4 pm, my water breaks. I am 21 weeks and 5 days pregnant.
November 13, a Tuesday. I am 21 weeks and 2 days pregnant. We call and make our appointment. Finally!!!
I am too far along, they said.
WHAT?? I couldn't get prenatal care because I didn't have the funds, and now I can't get prenatal care because I am TOO PREGNANT?? This is almost comical. The woman on the phone stutters and stumbles around. We can't believe it. But we have the money, we say. She finally says that she has to ask around and see if one of the doctors will take me on, but chances are low because I am so far along. She says she will have to call us back. We hang up the phone and both of our mouths are wide open. We just stare at each other for a while.
What am I supposed to do now? Just hang out and have my first ever doctor appointment be the day I go into labor? If we would have known that you can be denied a doctor because you are too pregnant, we would have hustled more, sold more, begged even, for money. Now, we are dumbfounded by the fact that there was a chance that I would have no doctor.
Too pregnant to start prenatal care. This is just one thing I could not and cannot wrap my head around. If we weren't in panic mode before, I sure was in it now. I texted my sister, too in tears to call. She couldn't believe it either. She got online to see what she could find. In the meantime, no phone call from the OB's office. A few hours later, we couldn't wait. I told Seth to call them back and see if they had made a decision yet. While he was doing that, I was on the phone with my sister and she had found a program that said they could take me, but I needed to go through an interview to see if I qualified for their help. This was a legitimate, sit down, face to face interview. Fine.
Seth yelled out to me that the OB decided to take me! The appointment was on the following Tuesday, on the 20th. I decided to go ahead and call the other clinic just to see what they had to offer. If there was even a small chance that we could qualify for assistance, I'd take it. I applied for the MAP (Medical Assistance Program) by phone and was denied. They said I could still come in for their in house assistance but it was the one that required an interview. Great. I'll do it. The next available appointment they had was November 26.
Do we chance cancelling the OB appointment for the interview appointment? Do we chance going to the OB but then losing $500 because we end up qualifying for the other program? Ugh. Forget it.
We choose the OB. 7 days. In 7 days we will get to see our baby's heart beat. In 7 days we get to see the baby move on the sonogram screen. In 7 days we may even see the gender of our sweet little baby. 7 days!! The weight and burden of not having prenatal care has been lifted. I can breathe easy for a while. Seth can finally breathe, period! Sweet 7 days!
In 3 days, my heart sinks.
Friday, November 16 at 4 pm, my water breaks. I am 21 weeks and 5 days pregnant.